Bay Buchanan On Her Book About Being A Single Mom

Joining us now -- didn't -- usually would have more on with us -- DC tomorrow worldwide will have -- -- -- -- a -- tomorrow. Bay Buchanan and she's -- -- -- political operative and that she's got a -- Former US treasurer and she's got a new book out. It's Beatty and her boys unexpected lessons I learned as a single mom and it's gotten great reviews and were were glad to have moron -- thanks for joining us here on the Howie -- show. Thanks how I am always glad to be rich you. Well listen you know what's what did you what do Jamaica I hate to bring it up again but you know since we have you on your talking about to book what did you make of the the and -- the never worked today in her life tempest in a teapot a few weeks ago. Well you know I think it's unfortunate but digger don't exist I element out there that does believe that the only way. That you really social earlier that your potential. It what what the real light is all about is in the workplace and its structure ridiculous. -- -- -- Consideration and anybody who's been a -- of the 3 in the morning with a sick child knows where the real world is all about you know it's not in the works -- surreal. Real life it is dealing with your children your family your Laporte so. I think it's unfortunate in some regard I think it's good to have that discussion once again and so that's where your form being at home a future orders according great -- That if you're able to do it -- you're not it doesn't mean that your. There -- that there's that you can be that you don't you that you can't be it's -- -- I think it's time to stop dividing -- you know whether there at all more at work or they're single primary. I think we should support all moms because. Obviously we want them to succeed we want their kids to succeed. And senator jewel whether you consider Julia to be a mob that day. Actually. Go -- Juliette -- -- to the federal government you interest -- There's some sense by being and the by the you know administration. That and that. All the you know people who work of our media and everybody -- -- and -- come -- -- its fictional character. And she's she's catching government by -- -- still attached in desperate for they're needed there are services -- sixty do they know about -- What we're about to Julia I've -- I've been gone to a -- I figure we're just -- head would explode a place like I'd settle for just reading about it but apparently. Julia is this is this -- fictional creation of the Obama campaign a cartoon character restaurant -- on the federal government for a number of that to death. If you haven't heard about it and but she she she decides to become home she decides to become a mother and that set right I mean -- there's no. No no god I eighty does not even light can post somebody comes around with the an artificial insemination. Vice you know she just decides to become a mom -- the kid appears and and the kid disappears a little bit later. It's like it's you know it's like should be you know she made it -- it sure is gonna get a parakeet or she was gonna have a kid you know that aside epic yet. It's murky brown -- over yet but I think it was that they need this kid got about one disappear -- acts. I shallow because it's you know it's real -- -- their top skip it's very top of the amount. And and I think that's some. What's missing here at the book how -- one of the reasons what are impetus is behind it. What I'm -- -- in a single mom of four year old to your older. And respect my -- son. All the time consumers that he needed to act if needed accurate succeed why collegiate that was important part which was one and home. And that reflects your and you need government any government answer no. I can do you know but at least now sometimes you need encouragement say -- -- kids. Take responsibility take control -- that they need you and that the Mets need to get no stronger. Moms out there they can find enormous resources deep inside them to fight through those children. And actually we should encourage all moms and their -- -- stats were the most important. Job they'll ever have even if it is the most typical. The you'd ever top Richard ever talked about this very much in this first time ever -- talking about it you know publicly you know that you -- that you -- single mom and you you went through all this so what what made you decide to write -- book now. Well pat pat and that over the years I really felt. There's something missing in the public debate to get. That that advocate said that there was no real signal out hope that we have now something like twelve million single moms in some eighteen to twenty made it being raised by. But the message from a lift from the right would only. I'll look at the statistics. Were luckily that there. So much more likely -- Salem school and get -- in trouble with the law make the list goes only. And distinct color guy. Surely we have a message for those who don't have that option anymore whether they should have or not it's irrelevant now we have to have a message it's. -- -- -- very strongly that I wanted to tell my worry me in a way to save this. He can do it. Even need to do you Mark Stuart and why you don't hit it you're right you can have enormous smile on and so that's my story I think it gets killed and those boys it was -- -- a -- household -- say the least. And but it was -- -- the greatest thing I've ever had in my life and but it's the same time. That's the messages you can do you must. In apps and in the end it turned out that elderly ears are saying it's just great parenting book how -- script for all parents and and all these letters I'm getting from parents even -- -- saying they so love the book because stories and it's. Even Paul -- The forehead. Gave you way gave you a nice review. In the on in the Daily Beast -- -- -- -- -- Just terrifically in historic. You know Robert Caro is you know his his fourth block sport that is series of biographies about Lyndon Johnson is coming out now on that this about Lyndon Johnson becoming -- in November 1963. And you know the war on poverty and of course that's that's where a lot of this -- all these problems with its single motherhood not in your not in your case but. It's only that but it you know before Lyndon Johnson became president before the war on poverty I mean. This this was not 88 national epidemic I mean how to hit Betty I know I know you're seeing you know the geek can't really do much -- your husband -- did you watch. -- you know -- you're from middle class family but but I mean it's it's been made since since Lyndon Johnson it's it's been made a a career choice. 44. Women. -- And as I say in my book. There's. He can't. You can't replace the -- the -- critical person in your children like and dirt and can't keep demanding and don't think that if you get divorced everything's by you only need around because these. Your kids are art which is this as somebody that they took very strong -- me how. Had a close relationship with. You know -- it -- at the same target sexual revolution and all that. Permanent and came out and really all that important image abroad and beach. Attached to step in the kind of -- back put her relationship with her husband actually like relationship that you like from summer from some -- I'm suggesting that somehow you and the sexual revolution and you know you get married and I can get a lot on her parents are watching it later date. Perhaps they think are coming around a little bit but that consequences the ball and stay including as you pointed out the social welfare. Is is enormous number of single mom and in my point is -- it will have to work. And in came everywhere each and within our churches our families and and certain people milk in our children are virtually poster how important is. How the traditional family to have both a mom and dad how how really. What successful those kids are likely debate but Kenya have to have -- and -- capped at a message that over the and they really want you to succeed we want to get exposure children. Two good solid family sitting -- would like to be a hot day -- not stop there. And and make sure they had strong male role models that are like compensate for the fact the -- -- now so that they will be responsible meant. And in great -- That's the key in that we don't direction we're Jewish god this is just academic it's going to grow out. It's I mean it's over 50% of the children I read somewhere born to women under thirty now or rubble are. Born out of wedlock I mean that's a matter how much how much much more of an epidemic it can be that day. Well well. But so what would do which should not have a message -- I'll don't know what the answer and it's just like oh Cali -- was this explosion. Rick you know I'm just good look at it -- gonna Lyndon Johnson in the war on poverty when I was reading about the Bob -- for. Were fourth. Addition their fourth home coming out. I just think of what a terrible what -- talk with your brother about this a million times I mean this is when. Everything started changing you know when Lyndon Johnson got and I and I don't -- you're right I mean I don't know what you do with this point -- bag but that sort. I. I -- We got to make every party recognize. That these children being raised by single parents. -- need as much support can get certainly succeed and I don't care of our city. Or soccer makes it's actually there are some basic rules that will help them others. To two. Years being able to focus and give their time effort to those children and and if they don't take responsibility for them. You know this society is going to be much further era. -- -- Okay the title of your book is at bay and her boys unexpected lessons I learned as a single mom and I we have it we have a link on our web -- to it and I. And it cannot -- our message out. I'm sorry this this topic sometimes depresses me back you might -- I mean you cannot. I can't stand. I mean I wish to discourage -- found myself you know raising three -- that -- now like there is critical. And I thought I had the most wonderful childhood in the world in tech is critical so how are gonna do this. But if you really sort your sock and that he just put the -- are trying new. And say look I'm a single parent now on the ground and you don't do well actually it's going to. To benefit and I'm gonna compensate for the fact that their debts aren't here in some -- I found its way to do it and it worked -- kids. Has she ever as soon as as the missing father ever returned. He would see them. A little bit for a while and then he passed away. He died of when -- in great article. Okay bay a you don't I was sure of the best with -- book I'm looking forward to reading and I've gotten that I have a ready yet I admit that and you know will those CU was C the next time -- Washington. I sure hope -- I'll be right down the air which you. Okay great what do you what -- Chad do bird -- briefly with about thirty seconds left what do you think of buy your man met does he get a win. I think it's looking stronger every day short this election about eight presidential records. It's -- -- miserable record so a lot of harm to this country and millions of Americans are and the price. I think they're gonna put somebody in there that can turn things around. Julie is happy ago. She's ready to go to like community garden and work out while what a wonderful that she's with government troops start to finish. Thanks -- Bay Buchanan author of -- and her boys unexpected lessons I learned as a single mom I'm -- car.